Learning to Listen

Before I came to Al-Anon, I thought I was a great listener and that I had the answers to everything. I would often give advice and voice my opinions, even when no one asked. I did this mostly with my husband, who’s the alcoholic in my life, but it also extended to my...

The Day I Gave Up Fixing

Last year, on the first Tuesday in February, I attended my first meeting. It started as one of the worst days of my life—worse than the day I lost my dad to a sudden heart attack, worse than the day I lost my mom to a horrific infection. It was the day I had decided...

I Felt Empowered

When I first came to Al-Anon, I felt damaged from years spent living with my alcoholic husband. I didn’t grow up in a family where alcohol was present. When I married my husband, I realized that he came from an alcoholic family, and I thought I would have to imitate...

Slow and Steady

Getting to my first meeting was a lengthy process. I did not believe that Al-Anon could help me because I couldn’t understand how it worked. I also had many other ideas on how to solve the problem of alcoholism in my relationship. However, as time passed and I found...

My Life, His Choices

I have never been a drinker, but I have had to face the fact that I was powerless to stop my young son from drinking. What was it like for me to admit I was powerless over alcohol? It was sickening and terrifying. There was so much damage, and some continues today. I...

Patient with the Process

Just weeks after a milestone birthday, I broke my hip in three places. I’d been shooing a lizard off my front porch, and when the lizard leaped, I reacted to its sudden movement and hit the floor. I exited my house on a stretcher and spent months recovering. During...