A Community of Understanding

Fourteen months ago, I was overwhelmed with anxiety and felt completely broken. My desire to control was off the charts as I watched my beautiful 38-year-old daughter—the mother of a precocious five-year-old and wife of a kind and loyal man—sink deeper into the depths...

I’ve Been There Too

Have you ever been sitting in an Al-Anon meeting and, after a member shares, you hear someone respond with, “Glad you are here”? Maybe on your way out, you pass someone chatting with a newcomer and hear them say, “Glad you are here.” On my first listen, I thought it...

Seeking Answers

I came into Al-Anon looking for answers, believing I needed to fix the alcoholic in my life. I expected to hear how to do that at an Al-Anon meeting. Life was chaotic at the time, and I wanted a quick fix to my problems. I must admit that I got all the answers I ever...

Learning to Listen

Before I came to Al-Anon, I thought I was a great listener and that I had the answers to everything. I would often give advice and voice my opinions, even when no one asked. I did this mostly with my husband, who’s the alcoholic in my life, but it also extended to my...

The Day I Gave Up Fixing

Last year, on the first Tuesday in February, I attended my first meeting. It started as one of the worst days of my life—worse than the day I lost my dad to a sudden heart attack, worse than the day I lost my mom to a horrific infection. It was the day I had decided...

I Felt Empowered

When I first came to Al-Anon, I felt damaged from years spent living with my alcoholic husband. I didn’t grow up in a family where alcohol was present. When I married my husband, I realized that he came from an alcoholic family, and I thought I would have to imitate...